What Does a Child Predator Look Like?

[DodiaFae]

I want to thank the folks at Absolute Zero United and Wikisposure for researching and posting the following information.

Warning: Not only is this a fairly long piece, but some of the links do contain information that will be disturbing to most. Please use discretion in viewing while children are in the room or if you think that reading the information might trigger depression.

When most people think of the word “Pedophile”, they probably think of someone who looks like Jack McClellan.
Of course, you may be recognizing him from his very outspoken pro-pedophile activities... or you may just recognize him from one of the talk shows he’s been on.

Unfortunately, not all predators look like Jack McClellan.

You might expect a child predator to look like Jose Carrasquillo:
Luckily this guy, who is charged with the particularly brutal rape of an 11 year old girl, was apprehended by concerned citizens. Of course Jack McClellan feels that Jose would have been justified to start shooting when said concerned citizens spotted and chased him. Yeah, this is how much these people “love” children... rooting for the guy who caused such serious injuries by viciously raping (the injuries weren’t caused by beating, but by the rape itself) an 11 year old girl.

And, as it should be, the concerned citizens who apprehended this PoS received a reward for doing so (which they donated back to the Police Association who paid it out and to the family of the little girl who was raped... she required surgery for her injuries, after all) instead of getting life in prison as the father in Australia is likely to get, while his son’s admitted abuser walks.

Maybe child predators look like Michael McCormick:
What a handsome guy he is, huh?

Mike, or Spike as he’s known on the GC (Girl Chat) sites, is credited with creating the GLogo (GirlLove logo), which is used by "Girl Lovers" as a sort of recognition symbol for one another:

Maybe they look like Kyle Stanko, who looks as though he aught to have a pair of horns growing out of his forehead:
He’s a “BL’er” (boy lover), who apparently has problems with rage. Nice combo there, “Damien”.

Maybe a child predator looks like Mark Speary:
Apparently, Mark uses his disability (he’s deaf) as a means of disarming people and getting them to trust him. But he wouldn’t hesitate to molest a little boy (he likes toddlers) if given the chance to do so.

You may, or may not, expect him to look like Michael Matthew Kaylor:
I don’t know... this guy kind of reminds me of the shy, but respectable Socrates Poole from ”The Adventures of Brisco County Jr”. He looks like the guy at the bank who authorizes mortgages, or the CEO of a company. However, this guy seems to believe that adult/pubescent child sex is more socially acceptable than adult/prepubescent child sex. He likes boys of “about” 12 and up. Not so respectable... and not so shy that it prevents him from being very “vocal” about his thoughts and desires on the boychat sites, or that it prevents him from publishing about ”pederasty” in the Czech Republic.

Maybe you’d expect a child rapist to look like Justin-Georges Coulombe:
When I first saw the picture, I thought that the outfit was a tasteless joke. But, apparently, he has been (or is) a member of clergy. Justin is also a boylover who possibly worked at a (now closed) elementary school. One of his quotes:

”I look forward to the day when being a BL, intergenerationalist, Ephebophilia, Hebephilia, or any other words we use to describe our relationships, are no longer a thing to be feared and hated by so many, but are instead a welcomed and encouraged members of society. With all the rights and privileges there too. As well I would like to see "Legal Age" be defined not solely by the time you have spent on this earth, but an averaging of all aspects of the person. Intellectual, Physical, Emotional, Psychological and Temporal. It is my Dream, and if it weren't for Dreams, and the men who follow them, this world would be a far darker place.”

For those of you who don’t know what “hebephilia” is, it’s when an adult is sexually attracted to a pubescent child. He feels this should be completely acceptable to society. Ephebophilia is when an adult is sexually attracted to late pubescent/older teens.
And the last line of that quote: ”It is my Dream, and if it weren't for Dreams, and the men who follow them, this world would be a far darker place.” If the dreams of the likes of him were to come true, the world would be a place of nightmares for all children. Children are nothing more than sexual objects to them... pieces of meat.

Another of his quotes that is most definitely cause for concern, and something that I and others have been trying to warn people about for quite some time now:

”I am sure this was asked before, but I will ask it again to get your opinion on the matter. I had read some time ago about a Political Party in the Netherlands who was pushing for Pedophilia to stop being taboo and get pushed to the mainstream, as well as judging the age of consent differently. I was wondering if any of you would stand behind a party with similar views if they were to form in your own country, assuming of course the rest of their platform was sound (IE: Economic Renewal, Universal Health Care, Ending Wars, and the like.). I would like to see your opinions on this. I personally have thought about Civil Service on a number of occasions, and would feel quite comfortable spearheading such a party, if I wasn’t so apathetic in regards to my current political system, not to mention the overly conservative nature of the country in which I reside. But if someone else were to start the party I would be behind it in a heartbeat.”

Maybe the child predator near you looks like Peter Cowell:
Peter has spent the last three years in the Phillipines, where he has admittedly made videos (which he needs to convert so he can still watch them when he gets back to the UK) and having intercourse with “virgin” boys. As I’ve said, children are simply pieces of meat to the likes of him, nothing more than someone they can take their sadistic urges out on.

Would you suspect fairly “normal” looking Gary Anderson?
He’s a convicted child pornography collector who wants ”to be regarded as low risk”. He likes little girls and little boys (8 or 9 and 7-12 respectively.) He was working as a teacher when he was convicted, and had more than 51,000 images in his possession. He only served 18 months in prison, and it’s obvious by his quotes that he has no desire to change. He also writes graphic “pedo-erotica” (or child rape stories, as they’re known to us normal folk.)

When you think of the proverbial “dirty old man”, you probably don’t expect to see someone who looks like Roger Keith Bloemers:
Keith is a married man, with children and grandchildren of his own. He’s a music teacher, a photographer/movie-maker, and a mentor... all things that would allow him access, and the ability to exploit, children.

You probably wouldn’t expect a predator to look like Danja Arend:
Boy, they just seem to get younger every year, don’t they? Danja looks like a boy, himself (he’s 24 years old), but he’s a “boylover”. He’s also a pro-pedophile activist who would like for people to believe (as many pro-pedophile activists claim) that there is a difference between “childlove” and pedophilia. But in reality it’s all child rape. Apparently, he would like to have a son... like many pedophiles, he doesn’t seem to have a problem with incest, either.

He’s also upset that this was posted at AZU... he claims to be over it according to one of his responses there:

”Until a few days ago I thought I left that confusing past behind me. Then I found out I'm listed with molesters, rapists and other sick f****. Fantastic. So much for moving on to a normal life. Danja Arend”

As Stitches77 pointed out to him, for someone who wishes not to be associated with those “sick f****” he didn’t do much to cut ties with them... he still uses the same nickname and email address.

But they get even younger, still...
Douglas Shepherd is a 23 year old who is charged with molesting children in his care while working as a nanny. The really terrible thing about this story is that his family ”knew in their hearts” that he was sexually attracted to young children, but did nothing about it.

Lindsay Ashford, another well-known pro-pedophile activist (and creator of a “GL” site), is Dougy’s hero.

Would you suspect 22 year old US Army combat engineer, Richard Hite?
He’s a “boylover” who is attracted to boys aged 5-12, who had created a pedophile chat room (now defunct) as a way for boy/girllovers to meet and exchange thoughts (ie, networking to share tips on how to find and prey upon children.)

Probably no one would suspect Christopher Wrigely of being a child predator. I mean, he’s what would be considered “attractive” by most (until they know the truth, of course.)
Chris is a convicted sex offender who apparently claimed to be researching pedophilia ”to reduce the instances of child sexual abuse”, but all the while he was posting to “BoyChat” and other pedophile forums.

You obviously can’t judge a book by it’s cover.

And most frightening of all the predators reported in this piece byAZU and by Wikisposure to mark the occasion of International Boylove Day 2009:

Very few, if any, would suspect Jessica Massey of being a “boylover” who writes child rape stories and maintains several pro-pedophilia blogs.
And one of her quotes, which is proof-positive that pedophilia is not a “sexual orientation” as most pedophiles would like the general public to believe:

" I If BL is a sexual orientation, then what happens when your YF is no longer within your age of attraction? Does the romance just go away; he finds someone else and so do you? I would certainly hope that love could outlast a change in body. However, with me, it's the innocence of childhood that I'm attracted to, so if that went away, it'd be like a marriage in which one person changed and the other didn't. It would have to end..."

She doesn’t look it in the picture above, but Jessica is just as evil and vile an individual as any of those listed above her.

If you want some more examples of just how diverse in look, life-style, etc. pedophiles can be, check out the piece that AZU did for Alice Day (caution: this link contains a flashing graphic). Again, they got their info from Wikisposure.

If you have any information on any of the people listed in this piece, or anywhere on Wikisposure or AZU that they don’t already have posted, please don’t hesitate to contact them.

Blessings,
~ DodiaFae

[Sue]

Here's a pic that I use during presentations. These are all convicted child predators from a Megan's Law web site. As you can see, they look like normal people, so you really can't spot a child predator by the way they look...

[DodiaFae]

Awesome, Sue!

Interesting to note that one third of those pictured in your presentation are women. That's something that people just don't expect to see, but something I've been saying for a couple months now. When I was tracking those sites I reported to NCMEC and Ning, a rather large portion of the members of those sites were women. That's just plain disturbing.

Thanks for posting those photos.

[Witchydove]

Many of the predators look 'Typical" of what we think they should...however a great number of them look just as normal as you and me and one would never guess by looking at them, what evil lurks within!!!

Thanks for posting this to bring awareness to the fact, you just never can tell

[DodiaFae]

Exactly. The most frightening looking person could turn out to be the nicest person in the world, while the most normal and/or attractive person could be a horrible monster. The point is that we need to be aware of the behaviors of those around us rather than going on looks. Their behaviors are what will give them away. Also, our natural instincts might tell us something completely unexpected about a person we may have judged by the way they look. But many of us just feel more comfortable going by what we can physically see than what we instinctually know about a person, and using our instincts is an important part of protecting our children from people like those shown above.

[Satori]

Here's a story about how you can't tell a predator from their looks for you. I work as a rental agent for my own landlady and manage four buildings. We had this guy move in, somewhere in his late 50's in age, very quiet and unassuming type, quiet voice, totally "harmless" seeming guy. He came to my house twice a month to pay his rent in halves, and would speak so quietly I'd have to lean toward him to hear correctly. Friendly, smiling, yada-yada-yada. After he'd lived in the apartment about four months I got an alert from Family Watchdog, where I'd signed up to receive alerts when a predator moved near my home. Guess who it was? You got it, Mr. Harmless. Seems that some time ago he had raped a 13 year old girl at knifepoint. To say I about fell off my computer chair in shock is an understatement, and when I called the landlady I worked for I could hardly get the words out to tell her. I felt like the air had been sucked out of my lungs or something. No, you sure canNOT tell a predator by looking at them. This is the last guy I'd ever have thought that of.

[DodiaFae]

Wow! Good thing you get those alerts! I'll bet the landlady was happy you found that out.

Predators will always try and seem harmless. It's how they fool people into allowing them access to their children. It's all part of the grooming process, and they will groom entire communities.

If there are families with minors living in the building he moved into, he's very likely violating his parole. It's worth checking into, or at least alerting his P.O. so that they're aware of the situation. Also, check the location(s) of the nearest school(s) and daycare center(s), and alert his P.O. to that, as well. Often, they're not allowed to live within a certain distance of any of them, and occasionally playgrounds, or anywhere else that children congregate are added to the list.

Thank you for sharing this story. It really helps drive the point home!

[Rev Willow Raine]

MM, OMG! Thankyou Dodia Faefor posting this. It makes you wonder indeed just how unsafe our children are. What really gets me is that I sit in AA and NA meetings and who REALLY knows the person sitting next to them?
Parents bring their young children to meetings, let them run about the room and believe me hen I tell you that total strangers are giving these kids more attention (sometimes picking them up) than the meeting and whats being said. I remain ever diligent and watchful right here in small town Kamloops. Thanks again and blessings,
Rev Willow HP

[DodiaFae]

You know, it makes me crazy when parents don't watch their children. I just want to go up to them and smack them upside the head, but I know that wouldn't work.

One of the things I read in a book called "Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane)" by Gavin deBecker is that parents will leave small children much further away than they would their wallet or pocketbook. No one would ever expect their wallet or pocketbook to protect themselves, but too many parents put most or all of the responsibility for their safety onto their small children. Most adult women would have difficulty defending themselves from an adult man (only because of mindset they're taught from childhood), yet they expect that their children should be able to do it. Something is terribly wrong with that picture.

Yesterday was "Independence Day" here in the US. We were at an Independence Day event (concert with fireworks after dark), and I told my father-in-law that he could not let go of my son's hand (he's 2 years old) if he walked around with him. The place was starting to become crowded and it was starting to get dark, and my FIL wasn't holding my son's hand... at one point I saw him running quite a distance ahead of him. All it takes is a small group of people to walk in his path for him to lose site of my child long enough for something to happen. (I wasn't only worried about predators, though this is exactly the type of event that they will attend, because too many parents don't supervise their small children. There was also a river nearby, and they were awfully close to it at the time.) So I went over and said "You can't let him run around like that." I think his feelings were hurt, but I just can't feel badly about that. My son is 2 years old, and ultimately I am responsible for his safety and well-being. I am not responsible for the feelings of any adult, particularly when they're not following the rules where my son is concerned.

He would never leave his wallet out on a table at a public event. This just goes to show that Gavin deBecker was right... And no matter how much money a person has in their wallet, what it costs to replace credit cards or IDs, their children are priceless.

[DodiaFae]

I have to apologize to everyone... it seems the links in the main post were all broken. I typed it up in a separate document before posting, and somewhere between the copy & paste process the system seemed to have added special characters to everything.

Also, I had the incorrect definition of "hebephilia" listed, and it is now corrected. While it's no excuse, the reasons for that error are that I've had "nepiophilia" on the brain due to some recent news stories I have read, as well as some information about certain predators which I have found to be terribly disturbing (and which I hope to post about in the very near future), and my continuing utter lack of sleep. Bad combination.

Thanks to Sue, the links have been fixed and the definition error has been corrected. :) (Thanks Sue!)

[Grim_Reaper_syp]

Hi All,
Interesting posting DodiaFae, No-one knows what 1 of these "sick" human beings look like. My wife and I raised 3 children. There was a golden rule in our home for all our kids 24/7. You Trust No-one! We had only 1 baby sitter during the intire time of raising our kids. (luckly she never touched our child) We had come home from our outing early. For me to find my son lying on the couch???? I caledl and looked for the sitter to find her laying in my son's bed with her boyfriend. (she was a friend's daughter of my wife's best friend) So, off I went with her taking her home. When I parked in her parents driveway, she looked at me as if ok "pay me". I looked at her with a very discusted look and told her to get out... We never made a big deal out of what happened, but that was our 1 and only baby sitter.
We raised our kids, along with the street proofing programs at their schools. You "Trust No-one" when it comes to them touching your body! I think your post is awesome and very informing! All parents should use the Trust No-one" rule. It's very hard to explain to a young child what a child molester looks like. It can be uncle Joe, aunt Mary, Grandpa / Grandma or a best friend of Mom and Dad's or even Mom or Dad!!! Our house rule worked on all 3 of our kids and hopfully for everyone we mentioned it to. We sooo thank the school "Child Protection Program" now implimented in all schools.....
I mentioned in my 1st. post when I joined this group. There is only 1. remedy for a "Child Molester". If found guilty by a jury. Take the bastard out! No prison term, No re-habilitation program. A "bullet" to the head! Wala, no more child molester and a firm message sent to all. I know in my heart, from raising 3 children. No-one, not a living soul could molest a child and be re-habilitated. I'm a Christian / Pagan / Parent... I could be the 1. to deliver the "bullet" in a heart beat! But all in all, the damage has been done to a young innocent child. I'm not that good at writing a blog / posting. I feel tho, that if this is read by the member's here and is passed on. It will be one more protection tool detouring "anyone" from hurting a "CHILD".

The message I would like to make to all the member's of this group and other's is: If you have children use the "TRUST NO-ONE" rule it works. Child molester's prey on children who are not aware of whats out there and what could hurt them for the rest of their lives. It worked on my 3 children and many of our friends children. Pass the word.....

Grimmm, Keep Safe, Blessings

[DodiaFae]

Thanks for posting, Grim Reaper. I'm glad the incident with the baby-sitter didn't turn out to be far worse (though that is still really gross... and the nerve of her expecting to be paid after that!)

The unfortunate side-effect of teaching children to "trust no one" is that they will never trust anyone. We'd just be raising a bunch of distrustful human beings, and that isn't healthy either. Children wouldn't even trust their own instincts, and that can be detrimental to their emotional, psychological, and even physical well-being, and it can stunt their emotional and spiritual growth. Our instincts tell us who we can trust and who we shouldn't. However, we tend to bury our instincts in favor of what we are taught.

Children can, and should, be taught to trust their instincts. Part of the reason that parents sometimes choose the wrong caregivers for their children when they have to leave them for any length of time is that as children they were taught that their feelings are illogical and not to be trusted. We're either taught to trust everyone until they prove otherwise (even though this could be a lesson learned too late), or we're taught to trust no one until they prove otherwise (which includes ourselves, whether we like it or not.) And let's face it, if you're already distrustful of someone, it's going to be near-impossible for them to gain your trust. Even when that someone includes yourself.

My experience is that everyone has an "inner knowing", and this is what we're taught to ignore. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has ever had a very uncomfortable feeling about someone which turned out to be completely justified. It took me a lot of years to get over the brainwashing I experienced as a child that made me ignore this "inner knowing". In all honesty, I'm lucky to be alive considering some of the situations I found myself in because I ignored what I knew, and any of those situations could have turned out to be far, far worse than it did.

A very good author that I want to encourage everyone to check out is Gavin de Becker. I'm currently reading his book "Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane)". It's his follow-up to "The Gift of Fear". His advice combines the use of common-sense and intuition for people to keep themselves safe, and for parents to keep their children safe and to teach them to protect themselves.

I think that it is important to teach children that not everyone can be trusted, but it's also important to teach them that there are trustworthy people in the world. The fact of the matter is that the vast majority of people in this world truly mean our children no harm. The problem is that the ones who do are very devious about it, and this is what we have to teach our children to be aware of and to know how to spot.

My 2 year old son, for example, is a very out-going and trusting soul. However, there have been (only a couple of) instances when he refused to go near a certain person, and I make a point of letting him know that I respect that, and that he doesn't have to associate with anyone he's uncomfortable with. I won't teach him not to talk to strangers, because if he were to become separated from me or another trusted adult he may be with, he may have to rely on the kindness of a stranger to get him back to his family.

The fact of the matter is that most abusers are very well-known to the child and their family. They've managed to get by the first line of defense by gaining the parents' trust through grooming tactics. In most cases, the parents will say "I never suspected...". However, upon further questioning there will be some "excepts" or "buts" thrown in there. They had an inkling somewhere along the line, perhaps a nagging feeling that they ignored because they didn't want to seem like a fear-monger, they didn't want to sound paranoid, they didn't want to anyone to think they were just being crazy, they can't deal with the "drama", they simply didn't want to believe that it could happen to their child, or they afraid of hurting their friend's feelings. They may have seen some behavior that they felt was inappropriate that the abuser explained away ("I was just helping her to adjust her swimsuit", or "he said his genitals were hurting him and I was just checking to see what the problem is", or something seemingly harmless or even caring) and later on all these instances come flooding back. The parent will often stick with their "I never suspected", but the truth often is that they just buried it.

And all this starts in the parents' childhoods. If people think about those times when they got into trouble when they were younger, or when someone hurt them, and really examined the circumstances surrounding those instances, they will realize that they knew the situation would end badly. Had they trusted their feelings, they may have been able to minimize or even avoid the trouble or the hurt, and I think that this is a better area to focus on when teaching our children than trusting everyone or not trusting anyone.

[Rob Taylor]

Surprise! Jessica Massey is apparently a Wiccan. Will they never stop embarrassing the rest of us?